I’m Okay Not Being A Mommy
I get crap from people all the time about my life decisions and not having children. It seems like the go-to insult is: “That’s because you don’t have any children…” or “Well when you have kids you will…” You know what? I’m not insulted by it. I’m glad I waited. In fact, I’m flattered that the only thing that can be hurled at me is not having children. It makes me secure to know that my opinions and decisions in my professional life are made objectively and not because I somehow slanted one way or the other because I was injected with the “mommy juice.” I have found myself in some really bad situations that I couldn’t even imagine adding another human life into the equation. Zalmie says:
I can think of many reasons why a woman would be in a hurry to have a child. They may be pressured, worried about age, thinking it may change their spouse for the better or they could just be going through that baby craze that every woman runs into at some point in their lives. Whatever your reason, know that it is okay to wait.
Being pressured to have a baby before you are ready is no reason to change your plans. Whether you are being pressured by a specific person or by a current situational factor this is not something that should sway your choice. Consider the pros and cons of the situation that you are in and consider that in your decision. If it doesn’t seem completely logical then it probably isn’t.
If you are worried about your age and feel as if you are running out of time, think again. In today’s society scientists have discovered that the average age of a woman’s last ovulation cycle is age 51. Many women hit the age factor in their 30′s and make a rush out of things thinking they are running out of time. You may not be running out of time after all, your baby will not care about your age if you have it later in life.
Women rushing into motherhood with the thought that it would make their spouses (or boyfriend) ‘better’ is actually the most common reason women have babies early . In most cases this is not the outcome. Forcing your spouse into a situation he does not seem ready for can actually make things worse. You should always wait until both of you are ready.
When women are going through a baby craze they often do not think rationally. Consider all factors into your decision before jumping into motherhood. Having a baby should never be a spontaneous decision. Consider your finances, you do not have to be rich to have a child but you should be stable. Look at your environment and be sure that it would be suitable for a child to grow up in. Be sure to include every factor into the decision, a baby is a big step.
There are many positive reasons to have a baby, there are also negative reasons. Always be sure you have the right reasons in mind before bringing a baby into your life. Remember, it is okay to wait.
